Consensual Non-Monogamy:

A Resource Guide

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Foundational Books on Non-Monogamy

  1. "The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Adventures" by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

    • This classic guide offers practical advice and explores the principles of ethical non-monogamy, focusing on communication, consent, and managing jealousy.

  2. "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships" by Tristan Taormino

    • Taormino's book provides a comprehensive look at various forms of non-monogamy, with personal stories and practical advice on navigating open relationships.

  3. "More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory" by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

    • This book delves into the philosophy and practicalities of polyamory, emphasizing the importance of ethics, communication, and self-awareness.

Books on Communication and Relationship Skills

  1. "The Polyamory Toolkit: A Guidebook for Polyamorous Relationships" by Dan and Dawn Williams

    • A practical guide focusing on tools and strategies for effective communication and relationship management in polyamorous contexts.

  2. "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy" by Jessica Fern

    • This book integrates attachment theory with non-monogamous practices, offering insights into how to create secure, healthy relationships.

Personal Narratives and Memoirs

  1. "Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships" by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson

    • This book presents a balanced view of various relationship structures, with an emphasis on creating relationships that work for the individuals involved.

  2. "Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities" by Kevin A. Patterson

    • Patterson's book addresses the intersection of race and non-monogamy, highlighting the experiences of people of color in alternative relationship structures.

Books on Managing Jealousy and Emotions

  1. "The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships" by Kathy Labriola

    • A practical workbook offering exercises and insights to help individuals manage jealousy and other challenging emotions in open relationships.

  2. "Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy, and Secure in an Open Relationship" by Kitty Chambliss

    • This guide provides tools and strategies for dealing with jealousy, fostering emotional security in non-monogamous relationships.

Additional Resources

  1. "Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

    • While not a how-to guide, this book explores the evolutionary and anthropological aspects of human sexuality, providing context for understanding non-monogamy.

These books offer a blend of theoretical perspectives, practical advice, and personal narratives, making them valuable resources for anyone considering or navigating non-monogamy.